Dear Galena: I was in a very toxic best friendship with someone for nearly a year, where we constantly crossed boundaries and blurred lines between platonic and romantic. They never wanted to commit, and it kept leading to an unhealthy relationship that ultimately ended in tears and screaming. They moved on and committed almost immediately, but three months later, I can’t seem to. I cry most days and I can’t bring myself to get back into dating. How do I move on when they already have? 

Dear No Cry November: Hey there! I hope you are doing better. I know you’re still hurting and there’s no telling when the pain will stop. Despite that, you will get past this and be the best version of yourself. After that experience, what if you took the time to focus on yourself to heal? No need to jump back into dating, especially since the heartache is still there. It’s best to realize that it’s going to take some time, but it won’t take forever. You can begin this journey by surrounding yourself with those who make you feel better and want nothing but the best for you. That positive energy is needed more than ever, because you don’t want to have to do this by yourself. It’s a hard road to walk down, but it’ll be easier with support and encouragement. Turn toward what puts a smile on your face, whether that be a hobby or an object — anything that can help the pain go away, even if  just for a little bit. Start with baby steps and work your way toward the big ones. I know you can do this. 

Wishing you the best,

Galena

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Edited by Ever Cole | ecole@themaneater.com