Ah, sex. As if the academic, social and financial stresses of college weren’t enough, being sexually active during college brings a whole new set of challenges. Whether you’re pursuing a casual fling or engaging in a serious relationship, sex poses many unique situations that people aren’t always prepared for. One of the most important aspects of sex is — cue the groans — communication. Talking about sex with your partner can be extremely awkward (it doesn’t have to be!), but in the long run, it’s worth it.

####Consent, consent, consent

At this point in time, one would hope the concept of consent is clear to everyone, but alas, we don’t live in such a perfect world. The idea of consent — while elusive to some — is really simple: A clear, explicit “yes” means yes. Any language (verbal or nonverbal) that suggests otherwise is a red flag. Consent can be taken away at any time, and one consensual sexual encounter does not entitle you to any more.

####Boundaries and limits

Much like our taste in food, music or clothes, people have unique sexual interests and desires. Sometimes, two people have sexualities that match up very well. Many times, though, there are things one partner might want that the other might not. If not properly discussed, these discrepancies could make for quite an awkward encounter. Especially in regular arrangements (casual or formal), it is important to talk with your partner about their boundaries.

For those who believe in reciprocation, it may come as a surprise when a partner refuses to reciprocate an action. However, just as you have a right to your preferences, your partner has their own preferences. If you feel that you and your partner are having issues with being satisfied, have an open, honest conversation about what is going on and what you both could do to come to a mutual solution.

####Taking care of yourself

Sex is supposed to be fun for all parties involved. For this to happen, you have to take some personal responsibility for your own pleasure. Don’t be afraid to talk about what you want with your partner. Hopefully, they are as invested in your pleasure as you are in theirs. Being vocal about your preferences and desires with your partner doesn’t come without listening, though. Just as you expect your partner to listen to what you’re saying, be sure to ask them about what they would like.