_Sex Edna is a sex and advice specialist for MOVE Magazine. She’ll take any and all questions about sex into consideration, but she’s really just making it up as she goes along like everyone else. If you think you’ve done something too different or too weird, Sex Edna probably has a story about messy situations or awkward interactions to match. She uses a pseudonym to protect her identity and the identity of her partners._
When people talk about body shaming, they are often referring to women as the ones being shamed. While women have to suffer through a lot more societal pressure to look like the male ideal of perfection, we’re a bunch of hypocrites. It is often overlooked how men are shamed for their bodies, in particular for one key member that is publicly heralded or mocked: their penises.
Most women are guilty of it, Sex Edna included. To begin with, it’s an incredibly weird and personal thing to discuss, but we do it anyway. If a friend goes home with a guy it’s not uncommon for one of the questions in the process of spilling details to be, “How big is he?” It’s an incredibly personal detail. I’ve never heard one of my guy friends ask another guy, “How wide was her vagina?” It gets creepier the more you think about it.
Penis size is also something that cannot be changed. While someone should never be expected to or be told they have to, many things that women are body-shamed for can technically be changed. While there are rumored and expensive surgeries that can potentially increase the size of a penis, the size difference with the surgery is no more than an inch. Penis size is simply something that men cannot change.
Even if they could, penis size shouldn’t be something that anyone would want to change. The stigma connected to penis size is ridiculous and sexist in nature. The idea of how big one’s penis has become tied to one’s masculinity and manhood itself. It creates a mindset that a man can’t be fully masculine with a below average package and that his size has some sort of effect on his persona.
Let’s be real, women are convinced that sleeping with someone who has a big dick is like winning some sort of sexual trophy. But everyone has their preferences, and those preferences are not all monster-sized penises. Most of the time, the preference will have nothing to do with whether a penis is short or tall, big or small. It all depends on who the dick is attached to. If the person attached doesn’t have a personality to match their member, any sized penis will do just fine.
So next time someone drives past in a canary colored Hummer blasting music, don’t assume he’s overcompensating. Assume he’s a dillhole.
