Dear Galena: Toward the end of this summer, I experienced my very first “summer fling.” We had so much fun together and we both ended up falling head over heels for each other. Though we never made it official, we began to act like a couple for the last few weeks I was home. One day, she announced that she would no longer be talking to anyone “like that” anymore because she was taken. Confused, I asked her what was going on. She responded with “you’re too far away.” Even though we agreed at the beginning of our “fling” that it was just for the summer, I felt so hurt by the fact that she threw everything away after only two weeks of me being gone. Am I wrong for feeling hurt and somewhat betrayed when we never officially dated?
Dear “Flopped Fling”: You have every right to feel the way that you do. Despite the agreement that you and her made, it was the strong connection that made you both fall and there is nothing wrong with that. It is common (from my experience) for “flings” to end up the way that yours did. What matters is how you decide to move on. t. You are a extraordinary person, inside and out. I know that you can learn from this and keep going, even if it hurts and bothers you. Summer flings, or flings in general, are not made for everyone and that is okay! You’ve had your experience, and now in the future, things can and will be different. Don’t dwell on it for too long, though, because it will only cause you more pain and leave you stuck in one place rather than starting something new for yourself.
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