“Ok so when I’m in public and I see a cute girl how do I make sure that I have the courage to go and try to chat her up? Sometimes I’ll be in my head telling myself that I will when she gets closer to me but then she goes in some other direction and I would feel weird walking after her. And is there any other way to meet girls other than through dating apps or approach girls?”
Dashing Rouge
Dear Dashing Rouge,
Here’s a general rule of thumb for you:
GIRLS DON’T WANT TO BE CHATTED UP BY STRANGERS IN PUBLIC!
If you’re not Tom Holland, a member of BTS or Harlan the Dog, girls generally don’t want you to approach them on the street. They just wanna have fun.
Luckily for you, there are other ways to meet people than walking up to them right out of the blue. Maybe, I don’t know, try to get to know some people? There are a lot of people around you to whom you are nowhere near a stranger. Your classmates, for example — do you even know their names? Join a large band, intramural sports team, book club or other organization; there will be people there, who are right now strangers but are perfectly okay to talk to and get to know. Maybe you’ll even like some of them.
So, what I’m trying to say is: Put yourself in situations where you can meet new people and not be weird, and quit fantasizing about your future life with strangers.
Good on you for feeling like it’s weird to follow girls around. It is.
Also no to dating apps. They suck.
XOXO
Your Slightly-Worried-To-Go-Out-In-Public-Now Cynical Dating Advice Columnist
“Being single is boring. With that in mind, should I settle for someone who is not amazing but who I’ll be chill with or reach for someone great knowing it probably won’t happen?”
Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
I think you knew the answer to this question when you wrote it. You obviously want me to tell you that “the right person is out there for you” and that “you will find your one true love,” but I just don’t know if I feel like it. If you actively want to settle for someone, get a better sense of judgment. I also think you’re probably too young right now to make desperate life decisions, so maybe save the settling for later.
Here’s the thing: every single person in your life is going to leave you at some point. There is only one person in this entire world whom you will spend every single second of your life with: yourself. So maybe work on making that enjoyable.
XOXO
Your Eye-Rolling Cynical Dating Advice Columnist
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Edited by Ever Cole | ecole@themaneater.com
