Just about everyone has a story about a first date. Whether it’s good, bad or downright ugly, we’ve all been there. It doesn’t matter if you’ve had a handful of first dates or too many to count; there’s always room for improving.
In the age of Tinder, it seems that first impressions are made way before people end up actually meeting. However, I still believe the first date is important, arguably now more than ever. Going on a first date gives an opportunity to showcase your real self, not just the version that is on your Tinder or Bumble profile. The world of dating is tricky though, and the first one can be especially bad. However, with a little creativity, a bit of confidence and some willingness to put yourself out there, a first date could be the start of something pretty sweet.
####Keep it casual (or make a statement)
One of the toughest parts of a first date is actually deciding on a place to go. The rule of thumb in a first date tends to include the following: keep it casual and leave a lot of room for conversation. The goal of a first date is to leave knowing more about the person than you went in knowing. The more conducive the date is to this goal, the better. If you want to play it safe, you have options. Coffee or lunch is a safe bet (assuming the person you’re asking on a date eats and/or drinks), as can be drinks at a low-key venue. Visiting vintage or speciality stores, like the many Columbia has to offer, can also tell you a lot about someone. If you want to make a statement and do something unique, try and tie in something that your date mentioned they enjoy. Whether it’s something they’ve always wanted to try or a venue or activity they love, showing that you took the time to incorporate their interests can say a lot.
####Try something new
A date option that takes a little gusto is to step way out of your comfort zone and try something completely new for you and your date. A new restaurant, an art installation or a place that neither of you have been to before could make for a great date. Whether it goes very well or very badly, you both will have a new shared experience together.
####Don’t panic (if it sucks)
The reality is, first dates may suck. The person may be awkward, harbor completely different values from you, eat their food in an annoying way or have a weird obsession with murder mysteries. You’re going to have bad dates, and that’s just part of dating as a whole. If things go south, just be upfront. A text or call that says, “Hey, I had a nice time, but I don’t see this going further,” is a much better alternative than ghosting someone. Also, don’t be afraid to face the reality that someone may hate your political views or music taste and not may want a second date. Suck it up, get over it, and move on to the next one.
